Preparing for a Hurricane
There’s a hurricane heading for the East coast. If you live anywhere near me, you have been inundated with the news and warnings about it. That’s a good thing within reason. We all need to be...
What Might Have Been
I sent my son to middle school today. Actually I sent both kids to middle school today, but it was particularly significant for my son. When people meet my son, they instantly fall in love with...
Stop Being Selfish
As survivors, we are often torn between our deep desire to proudly be ourselves and the horrible, defeating messages of childhood. Even if we have changed our external situation since we were...
How We Learned We Weren’t Important
It isn’t about what you do, but who you are. We hear variations of this phrase all the time. And it sounds like a great concept. We can be proud of who we are as a person. We don’t have to...
Finding Freedom
As I have been working with my freedom fighters over these past months, I have come to understand the numerous ways others tried to control me throughout my life. I became so accustomed to these...
Stop Waiting for Permission
We are born free. We are born to bring our amazing strengths to this planet. We are meant to meet a purpose which was designed specifically for us. We are here for great things. But when we...
4 Stepping Stones to Trust
Last week, I discussed how our traumatic past can convince us trust is not the answer. When we grow up with trauma, all signposts point to trust being incredibly dangerous. And anything deemed...
Building a Foundation of Trust
One of the most difficult aspects of life after trauma is allowing ourselves to trust. And this makes sense. We have been collecting evidence from a very young age. And we have determined that...
What to Do When You Want to Quit
I haven’t been in a great place this past week. My computer’s hard drive crashed and it didn’t sit well with my parts. Even though I did not lose data, my productivity loss triggered the...
The Universe Provides
One of the most common notions we share as survivors of trauma is that life isn’t fair. Coming out of our childhood, it is not only understandable. It is true. Life isn’t fair. We had...
