Bye Mother

Bye Mother

Dear Mother, Another American Mother’s Day is approaching and I am still unraveling the web of contracts you spent my entire life trying to weave.  I can’t even imagine how much energy and time you spent attempting to limit my life.  Seriously, people have used that...
The Toll of Toxic Shame

The Toll of Toxic Shame

Toxic shame is one of the most detrimental epidemics in a world filled with childhood trauma.  But it isn’t easy to see.  It is often heavily defended by our dissociation, anger and futility.  It is hidden under our defenses like anxiety, depression and addiction. ...
The Attack on the Outgoing

The Attack on the Outgoing

I hear it often from my clients.  “I’m quiet.”  “I’ve always been an introvert.”  “I just don’t have much to say.”  “I used to talk too much but I matured, and I don’t do that anymore.”  There seems to be a general acceptance among survivors of trauma that their...