by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately. It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller. They use that as a defense mechanism. They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth. But this was a bit different. My controller kept telling...
by Elisabeth | Aug 29, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Trauma In Society
As survivors, we are often torn between our deep desire to proudly be ourselves and the horrible, defeating messages of childhood. Even if we have changed our external situation since we were children, we are still inundated with futility and worthlessness from our...
by Elisabeth | Aug 8, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Relationships, Trauma In Society
We are born free. We are born to bring our amazing strengths to this planet. We are meant to meet a purpose which was designed specifically for us. We are here for great things. But when we were born, the world was waiting for us. The world was waiting with all...
by Elisabeth | Jun 27, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
After a childhood of relational trauma, finding love can feel like an impossible feat. As our patterns of rejection, abandonment and abuse repeat, we can reach a level of hopelessness that feels insurmountable. We can resolve ourselves to the impossibility of love. ...
by Elisabeth | Jun 6, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery
I was watching a movie last night and the actors had a conversation that stuck with me. They were talking about the external milestones of life. They were discussing buying houses and having babies. She said, “When is our life going to start?” He said, “This is our...
by Elisabeth | May 2, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
When we grow up with complex trauma, we learn survival skills. These survival skills are incredibly useful when we are children. They may not be as helpful as we think they are, but they definitely help. They help avoid painful abusive experiences. But when we...
