Your Emotions are Flashbacks

Your Emotions are Flashbacks

It is incredibly difficult to navigate our emotions in a world that sees emotions as invalid and unnecessary.  If we cried as children, we were often threatened to stop.  If we expressed emotions, we were called dramatic or attention-seeking.  If we were angry, we...
The Chains of Perfectionism

The Chains of Perfectionism

If there’s one thing we have learned about complex trauma, it has a huge impact over the course of our lives.  The effects of our trauma permeate every aspect of life and inform every pattern we have.  I am not writing this to make you feel hopeless.  Actually if we...
Managing the Controller

Managing the Controller

One of the most powerful and controversial spiritual laws is that our inner world mirrors our external world.  It is the source of projection.  When we look at this through an inner parts lens, it makes so much sense.  We reject in others what we reject in ourselves....
Everything is Temporary

Everything is Temporary

I have been experiencing some intense inner battles recently.  It hasn’t been easy.  There have been some intense fears followed by bouts of futility followed by self-punishment.  And that can happen in the course of one day.  My inner parts are jockeying for position...
The Purpose of Obstacles

The Purpose of Obstacles

I have been sick the past few days.  I shouldn’t complain.  It has been years since I have been sick.  I used to get sick every three months before I started this recovery work.  As a matter of a fact, when I became a single mother, my greatest fear was handling my...