Healing in Community
What the Abusers Don’t Want When we go through trauma in childhood, our interpretation can take one of two extremes. It can all seem so random. It can make us feel like the most unlucky people...
“Jacked Up”
I have mentioned before that I am not in charge of this journey. There is something comforting and completely terrifying about that. In reality, my ego self (adult self) could never be in...
6 Steps to Overcoming Invalidation
I haven’t met a survivor who hasn’t been invalidated as they have journeyed through their recovery process. When we hear invalidating statements, it hits us hard. But there is a way to make it...
“My Husband is Angry and He Won’t Get Help”
What can I do about it? My work with clients often comes in themes. Most of the time, I find that my clients’ inner work is a reflection of my own journey and we grow together. But lately, a...
Own What Is Yours
I have been triggered today. While I don't normally write blog posts from this place (unless they are written by parts), I feel I have an obligation to sound a wake up call when it comes to...
Mother’s Day … Again
It’s almost Mother’s Day again. It comes every year without fail. I try not to play the “society says we celebrate this today” game, but it is hard when I grew up in an environment where...
I’ll Be Happy When …
Happiness Is Not a Choice There are more clichés about being happy than the hairs on my head. Most of them frustrate me. Some of them even trigger me. They may be well-intentioned, but the...
Mean is Cool
Hi there. It’s the inner defender here. In reality, I am one of the inner defenders. Some inner defenders don’t like me because my methods draw attention. But I have learned through the years...
Groundhog Day
Groundhog Day is one of my favorite movies. I love it for a few reasons. Bill Murray is a genius. Don’t argue this point with me. I won’t be nice about it. I love the idea of living life...
Bad Things Happen
The Self Blame Last night, I was hit by a car in my dreams. While many dreams can be symbolic, this had been a reality in my life. I was hit by a car while running on a road when I was in 14...
