The Real Recovery Process
I often write about trauma recovery as a process or steps. I do this for many reasons. First, I have always loved making a confusing thing more understandable. I think this is a gift that I...
I’ll Just Wait
“Maybe if they die, I won’t feel so guilty for speaking up. Maybe they will apologize on their death bed. Maybe they will finally say the right thing. Maybe I will find a way to make everyone...
Repressed Memories Don’t Lie
I make it clear that my recovery journey involves repressed memories. And honestly, it hasn’t been an easy thing to explain. Most people can’t fathom how our brain can dissociate to that...
Dear Karma Kid
Dear Karma Kid, I know you have heard it a hundred times, but your past doesn’t define you. And because you have heard it a hundred times, I am going to explain what I mean. You are not evil...
Doing Nothing at All
I’m a control freak. I am not talking about the kind of control freak that people secretly love because she will get everything done so they don’t have to. I am talking about the kind of...
The How & The Why
How? For most of us, the recovery journey starts as a venture in to the world of feeling. Our poor bodies have been numb for so long, we don’t have any idea what it feels like to feel. It is...
Healing in Community
What the Abusers Don’t Want When we go through trauma in childhood, our interpretation can take one of two extremes. It can all seem so random. It can make us feel like the most unlucky people...
“Jacked Up”
I have mentioned before that I am not in charge of this journey. There is something comforting and completely terrifying about that. In reality, my ego self (adult self) could never be in...
6 Steps to Overcoming Invalidation
I haven’t met a survivor who hasn’t been invalidated as they have journeyed through their recovery process. When we hear invalidating statements, it hits us hard. But there is a way to make it...
