One Day I’ll Fly Away
We live in a world of control. Everyone is trying to control their surroundings, their feelings, other people. This desperate need to control is coming from fear. There is so much fear built...
Anxiety and Depression: Our Emotional Defenses
If you have been on this recovery journey for a while, you probably have a sense of how you defend against your emotions. You may have been able to identify some of your strategies. You may...
Your Emotions are Flashbacks
It is incredibly difficult to navigate our emotions in a world that sees emotions as invalid and unnecessary. If we cried as children, we were often threatened to stop. If we expressed...
The Chains of Perfectionism
If there’s one thing we have learned about complex trauma, it has a huge impact over the course of our lives. The effects of our trauma permeate every aspect of life and inform every pattern we...
Managing the Controller
One of the most powerful and controversial spiritual laws is that our inner world mirrors our external world. It is the source of projection. When we look at this through an inner parts lens,...
Creating Change for Life
The Christmas season is coming to a close. While some of us might be very excited about that, there is another problem right behind it. We will now be inundated with messages about the changes...
The Message in Emptiness
This morning I was listening to a song and I couldn’t help but think about the emptiness it represented. I think about emptiness often. Or maybe I just feel empty often. Or maybe I just notice...
Everything is Temporary
I have been experiencing some intense inner battles recently. It hasn’t been easy. There have been some intense fears followed by bouts of futility followed by self-punishment. And that can...
Let’s Talk about Sex … ual Abuse
In my role as a life coach, I have a lot of difficult conversations. But I absolutely love my role of helping others overcome their trauma. My favorite part is breaking down the walls of shame...
Making Peace with the Holidays
The holidays are here. And while everyday life is triggering after trauma, the holidays take those triggers to another level. We are inundated with the imagery of a perfect family. Even though...
