Come Back to Your Truth

Come Back to Your Truth

If there is one thing I have seen as a common thread to a childhood of trauma, it is the invalidation of everything we believe to be true.  Our needs aren’t validated or met.  Our emotions are not validated.  They are touted as problematic.  Our memories are not...
We Must Feel Bad to Feel Good

We Must Feel Bad to Feel Good

The holidays are hard for survivors of trauma. I know that’s not a shocking statement. Our circumstances are usually less than stellar. Either we spend it without the majority of our family or we spend it with them but wish we hadn’t. Our external situation can create...
Mean is Cool

Mean is Cool

Hi there.  It’s the inner defender here.  In reality, I am one of the inner defenders.  Some inner defenders don’t like me because my methods draw attention.  But I have learned through the years that some things work and some things don’t.  And honestly, hiding away...
The Parts I Struggle to Love

The Parts I Struggle to Love

I often mention the importance of self love and unconditional acceptance of all our parts. But I will be the first admit that not all parts are easy to love and accept. Sometimes I ignore a part because it makes my stomach crawl to consider I might embody those...