Do you feel like you cannot escape the constant inner chatter in your mind?
Does it seem like your thoughts are pulling you in multiple directions simultaneously?
As a teenager and young adult, I spent my days inundated with constant chatter. My head was filled with thoughts. I thought all day long. I thought all night long. And these thoughts weren’t kind. They weren’t even consistent. The thoughts often contradicted each other, leaving me confused about the next direction in my life. Even basic decisions seemed overly complicated.
My thoughts fueled a constant state of anxiety. My body was so uncomfortable, I could not spend much time in a grounded state. My thoughts would get so overwhelming and negative, I would swing in to a state of depression without warning, leaving me completely immobilized. It was affecting my sleep. It was affecting my productivity. And honestly, it made me feel crazy. Society doesn’t think highly of those who hear voices. They tend to slap labels on that sort of thing. And they aren’t good labels.
I had no idea my constant inner chatter was coming from my past trauma. Honestly, I didn’t remember my past trauma, so how would I have known? In my thirties, that changed. I began to remember my past and it wasn’t pretty. There was so much trauma, it took some time to sort through all the pain and betrayal. But once I came to understand my past for what it was, a train wreck, I turned my attention to my thoughts. I just knew they were related to my past. And what I discovered changed my life.
My inconsistent and dichotomous thoughts were caused by trauma.
My traumatic experiences created a separation within me leading to disparate inner parts.
My inner parts didn’t agree with each other about how to cope with life.
My inner parts thought they were doing the right thing by filling my head with their directives.
While it was important to be aware of my unconscious beliefs, I didn’t have to do what they said.
My adult self could fix this. My adult self could heal my inner parts and their trauma.
These realizations empowered my life. I dove deep in to an understanding of my inner parts and what they believed. I built a relationship with each part and they started to trust me. I worked to get a handle on how they held me back from my best life. And I wrote it all down.
Through my work as a life coach, I have learned from other survivors that these patterns are not unique to me. Of course, there are nuances. Some have multiple inner parts where others have one inner part. Some lean toward one belief, while others swing to the opposite belief. But the inner landscape is shockingly similar among survivors of trauma, even significantly different trauma, even when they didn’t even know they had trauma.
I am pleased to offer this eBook as a navigation tool, so survivors of trauma can understand their own inner parts and unconscious beliefs standing in the way of their best life. In this book, I discuss:
The types of inner parts you might be facing on your journey.
How those inner parts developed.
The essential drives that become the foundation for our beliefs.
The most common unconscious beliefs and how they might manifest in your life.
What you can do to start making change happen.