by Elisabeth | Apr 10, 2024 | Defenders, Dissociation, Memory Repression, Recovery
My system is at war right now. Is this more of a war than normal? It’s hard to know. Most of the time, we believe we are feeling the worst we’ve ever felt because we just can’t remember how bad we felt before. That’s also a defender trick to convince us that we...
by Elisabeth | Mar 5, 2023 | Defenders, Parenting, Relationships, Trauma In Society
There is nothing more emotionally devastating than the weight shame has on our lives. The desperation of hiding our shame fuels most of our controller’s behaviors keeping us from our rest and inner peace. Shame drives much of our futility which keeps us stuck and...
by Elisabeth | Jan 24, 2023 | Defenders, Dissociation, Memory Repression
When I started my blog, I was excited to have my voice heard. I felt like I had found my platform to say what I needed to say. I had finally found a way to get past the obstacles to put my story out there. At the same time, I was nervous. After I posted my first...
by Elisabeth | Apr 14, 2021 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
Anxiety is one of the most common responses to trauma. Unfortunately, it is not widely recognized as a trauma related. It is not always recognized in our systems because there can be many diverse symptoms. And most symptoms can be seen as other physical and...
by Elisabeth | Mar 17, 2021 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
I’ve had some good things happening in my life lately. I’ve been taking some big chances and it’s been working out. That sounds nice, doesn’t it? I agree it sounds nice. But I’ll be honest. My system is in chaos. My anxiety has been unusually high. I haven’t...
by Elisabeth | Feb 17, 2021 | Defenders, Parenting, Recovery
I don’t watch much television. But I have a habit of watching “This Is Us”. I watch it every Tuesday night when there’s a new episode. My controller tries to shut down any potential emotion, but for some reason, I always seem to manage to move my schedule around...
