The Roller Coaster of Recovery

The Roller Coaster of Recovery

When we start our recovery journey, our controllers have big plans.  We are going to find the right approach and helper the first time.  We are going to find the shortest distance between point A and point B.  We are going to work hard because we are good at that.  We...
The Toll of Toxic Shame

The Toll of Toxic Shame

Toxic shame is one of the most detrimental epidemics in a world filled with childhood trauma.  But it isn’t easy to see.  It is often heavily defended by our dissociation, anger and futility.  It is hidden under our defenses like anxiety, depression and addiction. ...
Reigniting Joy

Reigniting Joy

My trauma led me to understand emotions in a one-dimensional way: “bad”.  They do come in two forms of “bad” though.  There are emotions that are a bit uncomfortable, but tolerable.  I can power through them and still function even if I am exhausted at the end of the...
The Reality of Fear

The Reality of Fear

There is no single emotion that drives our world today, but if I had to choose the most impactful, I would choose fear.  Fear is the most prevalent emotion on this planet and most of our decision making is driven by it.  But we don’t know this is happening.  We don’t...
The Isolator: Navigating Relationships after Trauma

The Isolator: Navigating Relationships after Trauma

I’ve been working with some intense battles in my system lately.  I have a tendency to focus on my defenders when I am feeling blocked and I often discuss them in my writing.  To be fair, the defender fears of recovery and change are not the only inner obstacles we...
Not This Time

Not This Time

Depression is a global problem and it is affecting many more people than we think.  And it is powerful in its impact on us.  It stops us in our tracks.  It keeps us from our purpose and goals in life.  It changes the way we see the world.  It disconnects us from the...