by Elisabeth | Dec 26, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Trauma In Society
The Christmas season is coming to a close. While some of us might be very excited about that, there is another problem right behind it. We will now be inundated with messages about the changes we need to make in our lives. We get to hear about how we are not quite...
by Elisabeth | Dec 12, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Trauma In Society
I have been experiencing some intense inner battles recently. It hasn’t been easy. There have been some intense fears followed by bouts of futility followed by self-punishment. And that can happen in the course of one day. My inner parts are jockeying for position...
by Elisabeth | Nov 21, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Trauma In Society
I have been sick the past few days. I shouldn’t complain. It has been years since I have been sick. I used to get sick every three months before I started this recovery work. As a matter of a fact, when I became a single mother, my greatest fear was handling my...
by Elisabeth | Oct 31, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
Contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t obvious when someone has experienced complex trauma. This is both good and bad. It means those of us with traumatic backgrounds can go on to get degrees, good jobs and live somewhat decent external lives. All that high...
by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately. It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller. They use that as a defense mechanism. They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth. But this was a bit different. My controller kept telling...
by Elisabeth | Oct 3, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
The Myths of the Controller I have a very strong controller. They love to plan out my life for me. They love to tell me what I need to do to achieve a perfect life. They have logical ideas that sound completely accurate. I can’t argue with logic. If it makes...
