by Elisabeth | Jul 25, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Relationships
One of the most difficult aspects of life after trauma is allowing ourselves to trust. And this makes sense. We have been collecting evidence from a very young age. And we have determined that trust is not something we can afford. When we were growing up, nobody...
by Elisabeth | Jul 11, 2018 | Defenders, Memory Repression, Recovery, Relationships
One of the most common notions we share as survivors of trauma is that life isn’t fair. Coming out of our childhood, it is not only understandable. It is true. Life isn’t fair. We had horrific childhoods. We didn’t get the love we deserved as children. We were...
by Elisabeth | Jul 4, 2018 | Defenders, Parenting, Recovery, Trauma In Society
It’s summertime again. Some people love summer, but it really isn’t my thing. I don’t do heat. My skin is translucent. And since becoming a mother, the added stress of having children home from school is another tick against the summer season. I have been known...
by Elisabeth | Jun 27, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
After a childhood of relational trauma, finding love can feel like an impossible feat. As our patterns of rejection, abandonment and abuse repeat, we can reach a level of hopelessness that feels insurmountable. We can resolve ourselves to the impossibility of love. ...
by Elisabeth | Jun 20, 2018 | Defenders
In my life, I have searched for many things. I have sought out love. I have tried to find peace. But more than anything, it seems like my life has been one constant search for clarity. Who am I? What do I want? What happened to me? What have I forgotten? My...
by Elisabeth | Jun 13, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
I thought about writing Jim instead. That is your name. It has been a while since I have thought of you as more than the person who spread his seed. That certainly doesn’t make you a father. You were never a father. Sure. You spent some of your precious money on...
