Family First

Family First

This weekend I joined the billions who obsessed over the royal wedding.  Maybe I didn’t obsess, but I definitely watched it.  And I am not ashamed of that.  My love seeker was a little disappointed that she won’t be marrying Harry.  But otherwise, I could not have...
Dear Mother

Dear Mother

Mother’s Day is here again.  This will be my 7th Mother’s Day without a mother.  That isn’t true, is it?  It has been 7 years since I cut you off.  But I never really had a mother.  This year, I want to do something for you.  I’m not giving you a gift.  I haven’t done...
You Can’t Escape

You Can’t Escape

I have been working with an amazing group of inner parts this past year.  The freedom fighters are some of the most authentic parts I have met.  In some ways, they are more devoted to my real purpose than my inner children.  They truly don’t care about the opinions of...
Heavy Lifting

Heavy Lifting

I went to the grocery store this morning.  I have never liked grocery stores.  I have trauma around food which complicates my shopping experience.  But this morning as I walked down the aisles, I quickly noticed more activity than usual.  The employees were tearing...
I Am Not Shocked

I Am Not Shocked

I usually don’t write about current events.  I do that on purpose.  I want to keep the focus on recovery.  Too much focus on current events can be triggering.  Triggers can be helpful in recovery by giving us access to our emotions, but they can also shut us down if...
A Messy World

A Messy World

Protecting my children has been one of my most important goals over the past 11 years.  I have made it clear to my family and all other abusers that my children are not available to them.  I have eliminated all contact with abusers in our lives.  This required me to...