by Elisabeth | Mar 5, 2023 | Defenders, Parenting, Relationships, Trauma In Society
There is nothing more emotionally devastating than the weight shame has on our lives. The desperation of hiding our shame fuels most of our controller’s behaviors keeping us from our rest and inner peace. Shame drives much of our futility which keeps us stuck and...
by Elisabeth | Dec 2, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships
I’ve spent my life on defense. Every decision I have made was to avoid some bad thing. I’ve rarely made decisions for a better, fun or authentic life. That was a luxury I didn’t feel I had. I chose the safest route. I chose the approach that avoided risk. Why? ...
by Elisabeth | Nov 11, 2020 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
It’s been a little more than two weeks since the big move and my inner conversation has been intense. I definitely moved here to help with calming my inner system, but I knew the initial response would be anything but calm. So this isn’t very surprising. Even the...
by Elisabeth | Oct 14, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Relationships
I grew up in a world where help came in two forms. It was non-existent. Or it was a betrayal disguised as help. My abusers made it clear that I was not going to find help. Each time I tried to find help, it was thwarted. Each time I had optimism, that optimism...
by Elisabeth | Sep 16, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships
We are living in a scary time. It is hard for everyone. But after childhood trauma, it can paralyze us. We already have inner parts who are programmed to find the fear in everything. We learned this survival skill at a very young age. Now that the world around us...
by Elisabeth | Aug 26, 2020 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Relationships
I grew up in an environment with one very clear message: who I am and what I believe does not matter. My opinions and emotions about my experiences were not welcome. My desires and plans in the world were unacceptable. I was trained from an early age to be...
