by Elisabeth | May 27, 2020 | Recovery
I often talk about the grounded adult self and the importance of connecting with it for healing. But many survivors don’t believe they have a grounded adult self. It is understandable why they would feel that way. After childhood trauma, it can seem like we live in...
by Elisabeth | May 20, 2020 | Defenders, Recovery
To the Adult Self, We are coming to you as a committee of defenders with a plea to turn this ship around while there is any hope of a reasonable life. You are a naïve adult self. Maybe you have done too much reading from people who are more skilled at life than...
by Elisabeth | May 6, 2020 | Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
Dear Mother, Another American Mother’s Day is approaching and I am still unraveling the web of contracts you spent my entire life trying to weave. I can’t even imagine how much energy and time you spent attempting to limit my life. Seriously, people have used that...
by Elisabeth | Apr 29, 2020 | Defenders, Inner Children, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
As you already know, this is a weird time. In some ways, this pandemic has paralyzed me. It has been difficult to get my normal tasks done. And it has been borderline impossible to get new things done. Unfortunately, it has coincided with the need to get some new...
by Elisabeth | Apr 22, 2020 | Dissociation, Recovery, Trauma In Society
In case you hadn’t noticed, everyone has an opinion about what we should be doing during this quarantine. When we learn to please others at a young age, this barrage of opinions can be especially confusing. We need to know the right answer and we struggle to trust...
by Elisabeth | Apr 15, 2020 | Dissociation, Recovery, Trauma In Society
As the quarantined weeks add up, our inner worlds can get a bit intense. It isn’t that the content changes much, but it gets louder and louder every day. And while we might try to ignore it, the best thing we can do now is to hear ourselves out. We have a lot more...
