by Elisabeth | Jul 13, 2016 | Defenders, Recovery
“Maybe if they die, I won’t feel so guilty for speaking up. Maybe they will apologize on their death bed. Maybe they will finally say the right thing. Maybe I will find a way to make everyone stop fighting. I’ll finally be the peacemaker I wanted to be. I don’t want...
by Elisabeth | Jun 8, 2016 | Recovery
How? For most of us, the recovery journey starts as a venture in to the world of feeling. Our poor bodies have been numb for so long, we don’t have any idea what it feels like to feel. It is like being an infant exploring emotions for the first time. Of course,...
by Elisabeth | Jun 1, 2016 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
What the Abusers Don’t Want When we go through trauma in childhood, our interpretation can take one of two extremes. It can all seem so random. It can make us feel like the most unlucky people on the planet. How could so many bad things happen to one child? In...
by Elisabeth | May 31, 2016 | Recovery
I have mentioned before that I am not in charge of this journey. There is something comforting and completely terrifying about that. In reality, my ego self (adult self) could never be in charge of this journey. I would not know how to do it or where to start. ...
by Elisabeth | May 25, 2016 | Recovery, Relationships
I haven’t met a survivor who hasn’t been invalidated as they have journeyed through their recovery process. When we hear invalidating statements, it hits us hard. But there is a way to make it less painful. Believe it or not, invalidation is a process. It isn’t a...
by Elisabeth | May 18, 2016 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
What can I do about it? My work with clients often comes in themes. Most of the time, I find that my clients’ inner work is a reflection of my own journey and we grow together. But lately, a new theme is emerging. And it is not something I am currently facing in my...
