Waiting to Collapse

Waiting to Collapse

I love the Olympics.  Other than the World Cup, it is the only sporting event I watch.  I am fascinated by international sporting events.  I think we should resolve all of our conflicts in this manner.  Of course, we would have to even the playing field with some...
You Owe Me

You Owe Me

When I was growing up, there were many phrases I didn’t want to hear. “Wait until your father gets home.” “Don’t make things up.” “You made another mistake.” In a normal family, these statements might be bad (and certainly not good parenting), but not necessarily...
Backing Up the Head with the Heart

Backing Up the Head with the Heart

As a trauma survivor, I have spent the majority of my life in my head.  My body was not a safe place to reside.  It held all the emotions and pain of my childhood.  It held all the reminders of my past trauma.  So I dissociated and stayed in my head.  It was safe in...
The Real Recovery Process

The Real Recovery Process

I often write about trauma recovery as a process or steps.  I do this for many reasons.  First, I have always loved making a confusing thing more understandable.  I think this is a gift that I was supposed to bring to the world in one form or another.  Second, it is a...
I’ll Just Wait

I’ll Just Wait

“Maybe if they die, I won’t feel so guilty for speaking up. Maybe they will apologize on their death bed.  Maybe they will finally say the right thing. Maybe I will find a way to make everyone stop fighting.  I’ll finally be the peacemaker I wanted to be. I don’t want...