 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Nov 28, 2018 | Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
The holidays are here.  And while everyday life is triggering after trauma, the holidays take those triggers to another level.  We are inundated with the imagery of a perfect family.  Even though we may grasp the idea that no family really lives up to the image in the...				
					 
			
					
											
								 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Nov 21, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Trauma In Society
I have been sick the past few days.  I shouldn’t complain.  It has been years since I have been sick.  I used to get sick every three months before I started this recovery work.  As a matter of a fact, when I became a single mother, my greatest fear was handling my...				
					 
			
					
											
								 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Nov 7, 2018 | Parenting, Recovery, Trauma In Society
Today is blog day.  And I am going to be real.  I don’t feel like writing a blog.  It happens sometimes.  But I try not to show it.  There are days in all our lives when doing things is a struggle.  And that goes for helpers, therapists and life coaches too.  Let’s...				
					 
			
					
											
								 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Oct 31, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
Contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t obvious when someone has experienced complex trauma.  This is both good and bad.  It means those of us with traumatic backgrounds can go on to get degrees, good jobs and live somewhat decent external lives.  All that high...				
					 
			
					
											
								 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately.  It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller.  They use that as a defense mechanism.  They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth.  But this was a bit different.  My controller kept telling...				
					 
			
					
											
								 
							
					
															
					
					 by Elisabeth | Oct 17, 2018 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
I work with outcasts for a living.  And I have never been happier with my job.  We are the scapegoats, the outcasts, the weird ones, the people who don’t belong.  On one level, it really sucks.  It is a lonely place to be.  And it is extra lonely because we have been...