by Elisabeth | Dec 4, 2019 | Defenders, Dissociation, Inner Children, Parenting
There is nothing more confusing than parenting after trauma. Our complex trauma teaches us to erase ourselves. It teaches us to ignore our most basic understanding of how the world works. It tells us that our emotions are not valid. And it instills generational...
by Elisabeth | Oct 30, 2019 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
People pleasing is one of the most debilitating survival skills that comes from a traumatic childhood. You might be thinking this is an exaggeration. Wouldn’t addictions have a greater impact on our quality of life? But here’s where we get confused. There are many...
by Elisabeth | Jun 19, 2019 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery
Dear Inner Parts, We get to make a choice. I know that sounds crazy, but we do. We get to decide between living for others and living for ourselves. It is our choice if we want to do something. We don’t have to wait for permission. We don’t have to avoid...
by Elisabeth | May 29, 2019 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
Our search for love is a fallible, desperate and often unproductive venture. We can spend decades looking for some way to end our painful loneliness until we give up and isolate. It is a debilitating swing from one painful way of living to another. And it seems to...
by Elisabeth | May 22, 2019 | Dissociation, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
As I mentioned last week, addiction is everywhere. Some addictions are considered perfectly acceptable by the norms of society. And some addictions are not. But those acceptable forms of addiction are not less devastating to our inner peace. They just happen to be...
by Elisabeth | Mar 20, 2019 | Defenders, Dissociation, Inner Children, Relationships, Trauma In Society
My son was bullied yesterday at school. He’s in middle school which is the worst time and place in my opinion. Kids are cruel at this age. And kids are also desperately trying to fit in. This is a recipe for disaster. I have learned that it is a really good idea...
