by Elisabeth | Oct 31, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
Contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t obvious when someone has experienced complex trauma. This is both good and bad. It means those of us with traumatic backgrounds can go on to get degrees, good jobs and live somewhat decent external lives. All that high...
by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately. It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller. They use that as a defense mechanism. They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth. But this was a bit different. My controller kept telling...
by Elisabeth | Oct 3, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
The Myths of the Controller I have a very strong controller. They love to plan out my life for me. They love to tell me what I need to do to achieve a perfect life. They have logical ideas that sound completely accurate. I can’t argue with logic. If it makes...
by Elisabeth | Sep 26, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
When it comes to recovery work, there is no more famous buzz word than “boundaries”. There have been thousands of books written about it. Coaches and therapists focus intently on teaching clients how to set boundaries. But the effort associated with boundaries is...
by Elisabeth | Sep 19, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
I don’t usually get alarmist in my blogs. But today I have an important message for anyone who will hear it. And it comes with emotion because sometimes it is just plain hard to live in this world. What’s my message? We can’t continue to live like this. It isn’t...
by Elisabeth | Sep 12, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Trauma In Society
There’s a hurricane heading for the East coast. If you live anywhere near me, you have been inundated with the news and warnings about it. That’s a good thing within reason. We all need to be prepared for things like this. We need to take precautions. Everyone’s...
