by Elisabeth | Jun 17, 2020 | Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships
I decided to go no-contact with my family many years ago. It wasn’t a flippant decision. It wasn’t to punish my parents. It wasn’t any of those stereotypes about no-contact decisions. Those come from people who are either jealous of our freedom or have done the...
by Elisabeth | Jun 10, 2020 | Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
There is a story in my family that my grandfather was a member of the KKK. This story is told differently from what you might be thinking. There is an eye roll and a condescending tone when it is told. It is told as if he was a silly little man making silly little...
by Elisabeth | Jun 3, 2020 | Recovery, Trauma In Society
To my black friends as we rise up against structural racism, I have been struggling this past week. Let’s face it. I have been struggling this whole year. It has been an extremely triggering year where it seems I have been swinging between a numb, manic state and a...
by Elisabeth | May 27, 2020 | Recovery
I often talk about the grounded adult self and the importance of connecting with it for healing. But many survivors don’t believe they have a grounded adult self. It is understandable why they would feel that way. After childhood trauma, it can seem like we live in...
by Elisabeth | May 20, 2020 | Defenders, Recovery
To the Adult Self, We are coming to you as a committee of defenders with a plea to turn this ship around while there is any hope of a reasonable life. You are a naïve adult self. Maybe you have done too much reading from people who are more skilled at life than...
