I Know and I Don’t

I Know and I Don’t

To my black friends as we rise up against structural racism, I have been struggling this past week.  Let’s face it.  I have been struggling this whole year.  It has been an extremely triggering year where it seems I have been swinging between a numb, manic state and a...
Freedom for All

Freedom for All

It’s summertime again.  Some people love summer, but it really isn’t my thing.  I don’t do heat.  My skin is translucent.  And since becoming a mother, the added stress of having children home from school is another tick against the summer season.  I have been known...
Dear Mother

Dear Mother

Mother’s Day is here again.  This will be my 7th Mother’s Day without a mother.  That isn’t true, is it?  It has been 7 years since I cut you off.  But I never really had a mother.  This year, I want to do something for you.  I’m not giving you a gift.  I haven’t done...
Dissociation is Everywhere

Dissociation is Everywhere

Last week, I wrote about the horrible invalidation that comes with claims that dissociation is not real.  But there is another belief about dissociation (and particularly Dissociative Identity Disorder) which leads to an underestimation of its prevalence.  That belief...
It’s Not About Perfection

It’s Not About Perfection

In my early life, my perfection mask was the best.  I covered up all of my insecurities with accomplishments and acquisitions.  But I had unconscious beliefs that I knew were the “truth”.  I unconsciously knew there was something horribly wrong with me.  I...