by Elisabeth | Jul 15, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
The Re-creation of Abandonment One of the first things I learned in recovery was the inevitable re-creation of our most significant childhood hurts. I thought there would be comfort in that understanding because I loved having an explanation for what otherwise...
by Elisabeth | Jul 1, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children
Abuse-born Beliefs My inner child holds many belief systems. Most of them are unhealthy. Of course, it’s not her fault. She came by them honestly. Every belief system came with strong evidence of it’s veracity, especially to a small child with black and white...
by Elisabeth | Jun 17, 2015 | Defenders, Parenting
Where do bullies come from? We have a bullying problem. I know I am not saying anything new. Most parents and teachers will tell you the same. And there are a million theories about what causes it. And there are a million theories about when it started. But there is...
by Elisabeth | May 21, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters
The Battle for Control During my recovery work, I have gone through several phases of perception about control. When I was a kid, it was obvious that I was not in charge. It was very clear. I wanted to be autonomous more than anything in the world. Even as a kid, I...
by Elisabeth | May 7, 2015 | Defenders, Relationships
We all have that inner child part that is waiting to be rescued. It doesn’t require something awful to happen in our childhoods. At some point in our childhoods, we were not treated fairly and our needs were not met. This is natural. Children are born with needs that...
