You Will Never Be Who You Were

You Will Never Be Who You Were

This might sound like an ominous title for a blog.  But I promise it has a happier ending than it seems.  One of the most common statements from my clients is that they want to be who they were in their twenties.  They had so much energy.  They got so much done.  They...
When This Work Matters Most

When This Work Matters Most

The futility has been sneaking in over this past week.  It has been building just outside of my conscious awareness.  This is what futility does.  It doesn’t want to be noticed.  It reminds me of the frog in the water as it heats up.  It doesn’t know what’s happening...
A Letter from the Defenders

A Letter from the Defenders

To the Adult Self, We are coming to you as a committee of defenders with a plea to turn this ship around while there is any hope of a reasonable life.  You are a naïve adult self.  Maybe you have done too much reading from people who are more skilled at life than...
I Am Not Your Convenience

I Am Not Your Convenience

Dear Mother, You turned me into a lot of things when I was a child.  You projected all your horrible trauma on to me and made me your enemy.  In reality, I was simply a child who wanted to be loved.  I was your child and I wanted your protection.  I wanted to feel...
Bye Mother

Bye Mother

Dear Mother, Another American Mother’s Day is approaching and I am still unraveling the web of contracts you spent my entire life trying to weave.  I can’t even imagine how much energy and time you spent attempting to limit my life.  Seriously, people have used that...