Never Bargain With Liars

Never Bargain With Liars

by | Jul 1, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children

Abuse-born Beliefs My inner child holds many belief systems. Most of them are unhealthy. Of course, it’s not her fault. She came by them honestly. Every belief system came with strong evidence of it’s veracity, especially to a small child with black and white...
Hey Kids, Just Say No!

Hey Kids, Just Say No!

by | Jun 17, 2015 | Defenders, Parenting

Where do bullies come from? We have a bullying problem. I know I am not saying anything new. Most parents and teachers will tell you the same. And there are a million theories about what causes it. And there are a million theories about when it started. But there is...
The Perfection In Being

The Perfection In Being

by | Jun 10, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting

The Mask of Perfection When I was growing up, my parents wanted me to be perfect. They were very clear that I must exceed all standards. They wanted me to have perfect grades, perfect looks, perfect extracurricular activities. They pressured me to be the picture of...
I Am Not In Charge

I Am Not In Charge

by | May 21, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters

The Battle for Control During my recovery work, I have gone through several phases of perception about control. When I was a kid, it was obvious that I was not in charge. It was very clear. I wanted to be autonomous more than anything in the world. Even as a kid, I...