You Can’t Escape

You Can’t Escape

I have been working with an amazing group of inner parts this past year.  The freedom fighters are some of the most authentic parts I have met.  In some ways, they are more devoted to my real purpose than my inner children.  They truly don’t care about the opinions of...
Powerless Parenting

Powerless Parenting

Powerlessness is one of the most damaging emotions coming from a childhood of complex trauma.  It is the foundation of depression.  It keeps us paralyzed.  And if we don’t recognize it for what it is, it can lead to suicidal ideation and even suicide attempts.  The...
We Must Feel Bad to Feel Good

We Must Feel Bad to Feel Good

The holidays are hard for survivors of trauma. I know that’s not a shocking statement. Our circumstances are usually less than stellar. Either we spend it without the majority of our family or we spend it with them but wish we hadn’t. Our external situation can create...
It Is Different Because I Am Different

It Is Different Because I Am Different

Dear Inner Parts, You don’t live in the past anymore.  You don’t have to be scared anymore.  I am an adult and I am here to help and protect you when you need it.  We live in a different world now.  We have more power to make change.  We have more options than we used...
The How & The Why

The How & The Why

How? For most of us, the recovery journey starts as a venture in to the world of feeling.  Our poor bodies have been numb for so long, we don’t have any idea what it feels like to feel.  It is like being an infant exploring emotions for the first time.  Of course,...