Healing with the Grounded Adult Self

Healing with the Grounded Adult Self

I often talk about the grounded adult self and the importance of connecting with it for healing.  But many survivors don’t believe they have a grounded adult self.  It is understandable why they would feel that way.  After childhood trauma, it can seem like we live in...
In Defense of Anger

In Defense of Anger

We live in an anger-hating world.  This is not surprising.  Anger has been labeled as dangerous.  It has been labeled as dangerous by angry people.  They know deep down inside that their anger drives them to do bad things, to treat people in bad ways.  They know they...
You Might Not See It But It’s There

You Might Not See It But It’s There

I have many clients who struggle with the possibility they can be loving, compassionate, grounded, patient and any other characteristic they need for recovery work.  They tell me they can’t possibly be this way because they have never been shown how to be that way. ...