I Want to Go Home

I Want to Go Home

There may be nothing more horrible than the isolation that comes with a childhood of complex trauma.  It isn’t that we are alone.  We are probably surrounded by people, but we are alone on the inside.  Life is happening around us.  It may even be happening to us.  But...
How Can I Be Of Use?

How Can I Be Of Use?

There were many lies in my childhood.  My abusers told all sorts of stories for why it was my fault I was treated so poorly and how I would never be able escape.  I learned horrible things about myself and none of them were true.  But once my intuition was blocked, I...
The Valiant Freedom Fighter

The Valiant Freedom Fighter

When it comes to parts work, there are some critical steps to healing ourselves.  First, we must build awareness of our parts and their unconscious beliefs.  Second, we must accept those parts for who they are today.  Third, we must allow those parts to express...
The Dissonance of Relationship

The Dissonance of Relationship

There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships.  Why?  Complex trauma is relational.  We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives.  And while the dissociation we use to...