by Elisabeth | Jun 27, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
After a childhood of relational trauma, finding love can feel like an impossible feat. As our patterns of rejection, abandonment and abuse repeat, we can reach a level of hopelessness that feels insurmountable. We can resolve ourselves to the impossibility of love. ...
by Elisabeth | Jun 13, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
I thought about writing Jim instead. That is your name. It has been a while since I have thought of you as more than the person who spread his seed. That certainly doesn’t make you a father. You were never a father. Sure. You spent some of your precious money on...
by Elisabeth | May 23, 2018 | Freedom Fighters, Relationships, Trauma In Society
This weekend I joined the billions who obsessed over the royal wedding. Maybe I didn’t obsess, but I definitely watched it. And I am not ashamed of that. My love seeker was a little disappointed that she won’t be marrying Harry. But otherwise, I could not have...
by Elisabeth | May 16, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Relationships
Most of us have been on this journey for a long time. We have been searching for peace and healing for years. We have sought out the answers to our pain for years. We would most certainly call ourselves seekers. We are driven by something deep inside that won’t...
by Elisabeth | May 9, 2018 | Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
Mother’s Day is here again. This will be my 7th Mother’s Day without a mother. That isn’t true, is it? It has been 7 years since I cut you off. But I never really had a mother. This year, I want to do something for you. I’m not giving you a gift. I haven’t done...
by Elisabeth | May 2, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
When we grow up with complex trauma, we learn survival skills. These survival skills are incredibly useful when we are children. They may not be as helpful as we think they are, but they definitely help. They help avoid painful abusive experiences. But when we...
