by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately. It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller. They use that as a defense mechanism. They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth. But this was a bit different. My controller kept telling...
by Elisabeth | Oct 17, 2018 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
I work with outcasts for a living. And I have never been happier with my job. We are the scapegoats, the outcasts, the weird ones, the people who don’t belong. On one level, it really sucks. It is a lonely place to be. And it is extra lonely because we have been...
by Elisabeth | Oct 10, 2018 | Dissociation, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
For the past six years, we have been a proud guinea pig household. I purchased twin guinea pigs for my twin people as gifts when I graduated with my Master’s of Social Work. I know that appears backwards. Wasn’t I supposed to get the gifts? But I made them wait...
by Elisabeth | Oct 3, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
The Myths of the Controller I have a very strong controller. They love to plan out my life for me. They love to tell me what I need to do to achieve a perfect life. They have logical ideas that sound completely accurate. I can’t argue with logic. If it makes...
by Elisabeth | Sep 26, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
When it comes to recovery work, there is no more famous buzz word than “boundaries”. There have been thousands of books written about it. Coaches and therapists focus intently on teaching clients how to set boundaries. But the effort associated with boundaries is...
by Elisabeth | Sep 19, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
I don’t usually get alarmist in my blogs. But today I have an important message for anyone who will hear it. And it comes with emotion because sometimes it is just plain hard to live in this world. What’s my message? We can’t continue to live like this. It isn’t...
