by Elisabeth | Mar 11, 2020 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery
Since very early in my life, I have had to live in survival mode. That means, my controller was fully in charge. They made all the decisions in my life and they were all made from a fear-based view of the world. All my decisions were safe decisions. I needed to...
by Elisabeth | Mar 4, 2020 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
We live in an anger-hating world. This is not surprising. Anger has been labeled as dangerous. It has been labeled as dangerous by angry people. They know deep down inside that their anger drives them to do bad things, to treat people in bad ways. They know they...
by Elisabeth | Feb 26, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
Relationships after trauma can feel like a mine field. There is no telling where the next explosion will come from. And our emotional responses to relationship patterns can be so intense, it feels impossible to unravel. But we keep going back to relationships. ...
by Elisabeth | Feb 19, 2020 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Trauma In Society
I watched Troop Zero the other night. At the end, I cried and cried. I cried more than I normally do. I’m not a crier. I never felt safe enough to cry. I did love the story. It was a great movie. The main character was a little girl in a very difficult...
by Elisabeth | Feb 5, 2020 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
Toxic shame is one of the most detrimental epidemics in a world filled with childhood trauma. But it isn’t easy to see. It is often heavily defended by our dissociation, anger and futility. It is hidden under our defenses like anxiety, depression and addiction. ...
by Elisabeth | Jan 29, 2020 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery
My trauma led me to understand emotions in a one-dimensional way: “bad”. They do come in two forms of “bad” though. There are emotions that are a bit uncomfortable, but tolerable. I can power through them and still function even if I am exhausted at the end of the...
