by Elisabeth | Jul 8, 2020 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery, Relationships
I’ve always had this wish to have that circle of friends. You know that amazing group of friends we see in all the movies and commercials where they eat together, vacation together and are unconditionally supportive of each other even when they make mistakes. I’ll...
by Elisabeth | Jun 24, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
The futility has been sneaking in over this past week. It has been building just outside of my conscious awareness. This is what futility does. It doesn’t want to be noticed. It reminds me of the frog in the water as it heats up. It doesn’t know what’s happening...
by Elisabeth | Jun 17, 2020 | Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships
I decided to go no-contact with my family many years ago. It wasn’t a flippant decision. It wasn’t to punish my parents. It wasn’t any of those stereotypes about no-contact decisions. Those come from people who are either jealous of our freedom or have done the...
by Elisabeth | Jun 10, 2020 | Recovery, Relationships, Trauma In Society
There is a story in my family that my grandfather was a member of the KKK. This story is told differently from what you might be thinking. There is an eye roll and a condescending tone when it is told. It is told as if he was a silly little man making silly little...
by Elisabeth | Jun 3, 2020 | Recovery, Trauma In Society
To my black friends as we rise up against structural racism, I have been struggling this past week. Let’s face it. I have been struggling this whole year. It has been an extremely triggering year where it seems I have been swinging between a numb, manic state and a...
by Elisabeth | May 27, 2020 | Recovery
I often talk about the grounded adult self and the importance of connecting with it for healing. But many survivors don’t believe they have a grounded adult self. It is understandable why they would feel that way. After childhood trauma, it can seem like we live in...
