by Elisabeth | Apr 28, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery
*If you are sick and tired of hearing people tell you to “put the past behind you” or “get over it” or “move on with your life already”, I want to ensure you that this is not the message of this post. Today, I had a small epiphany. I was thinking about what life would...
by Elisabeth | Mar 12, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery
How many people in your life would qualify as the “A-word”? You know those people who are nasty and manipulative and selfish, the people who are only interested in what’s in it for them. And I label them as abusers. (What word were you thinking of?) They aren’t...
by Elisabeth | Jan 5, 2015 | Defenders, Recovery
When I was growing up, I never grew up. I grew upward. I grew taller as most kids do. But many aspects of my development stopped at a very young age. While my brain grew intellectually, my unprocessed emotions from my traumatic experiences thwarted my reliance on...
by Elisabeth | Dec 15, 2014 | Defenders, Recovery
I have been thinking about leadership lately. What does it mean to be a leader? What personal characteristics does that require? Is a leader defined by their followers, by their dissenters? What is required of them when they are a leader? And why am I so scared to be...
by Elisabeth | Oct 21, 2014 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
One of the most devastating feelings during recovery is the deep sense of isolation and separateness. There are days when I feel like the only person on the planet who has suffered such horrible trauma and pain despite knowing many survivors of abuse and trafficking....
by Elisabeth | Oct 3, 2014 | Inner Children, Recovery
There’s a popular Zen saying in the self-awareness circles. “Before enlightenment, chop wood carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood carry water.” As with most Zen concepts, it seems like a simple idea on the surface. And as with most Zen concepts, it isn’t...
