by Elisabeth | Jun 15, 2016 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting
I’m a control freak. I am not talking about the kind of control freak that people secretly love because she will get everything done so they don’t have to. I am talking about the kind of control freak people run from because they know there will be casualties. I...
by Elisabeth | Jun 1, 2016 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Recovery
What the Abusers Don’t Want When we go through trauma in childhood, our interpretation can take one of two extremes. It can all seem so random. It can make us feel like the most unlucky people on the planet. How could so many bad things happen to one child? In...
by Elisabeth | Apr 27, 2016 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery
Happiness Is Not a Choice There are more clichés about being happy than the hairs on my head. Most of them frustrate me. Some of them even trigger me. They may be well-intentioned, but the result of these “happiness” memes and quotes is to invalidate other...
by Elisabeth | Mar 23, 2016 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Relationships
I have been mistreated. I don’t think anyone would deny that. As a child, I was treated poorly because I didn’t have a choice. I was trapped. I could not escape. As a young adult, I was mistreated because I had been taught I was worthless, so I didn’t know how to kick...
by Elisabeth | Mar 16, 2016 | Freedom Fighters, Recovery
This past week was a rough one. I have been thrown off my game. I have been less responsive to emails. I have barely kept up with my daily tasks. We have been eating out way too often because I can’t get it together to prepare food at home. I have been stressed,...
by Elisabeth | Feb 24, 2016 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters
Most people don’t like fear. When it rises up, the first instinct is to move away from it or whatever is causing it. And that makes sense. Our instincts were designed to do just that. We keep ourselves safe by listening to our fear and backing away from danger. But...
