by Elisabeth | Jul 25, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Relationships
One of the most difficult aspects of life after trauma is allowing ourselves to trust. And this makes sense. We have been collecting evidence from a very young age. And we have determined that trust is not something we can afford. When we were growing up, nobody...
by Elisabeth | Jul 18, 2018 | Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
I haven’t been in a great place this past week. My computer’s hard drive crashed and it didn’t sit well with my parts. Even though I did not lose data, my productivity loss triggered the futility from beneath the surface. I was inundated with theories from my...
by Elisabeth | May 2, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
When we grow up with complex trauma, we learn survival skills. These survival skills are incredibly useful when we are children. They may not be as helpful as we think they are, but they definitely help. They help avoid painful abusive experiences. But when we...
by Elisabeth | Apr 18, 2018 | Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Trauma In Society
I have been working with an amazing group of inner parts this past year. The freedom fighters are some of the most authentic parts I have met. In some ways, they are more devoted to my real purpose than my inner children. They truly don’t care about the opinions of...
by Elisabeth | Mar 28, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Inner Children, Recovery
I talk with survivors of complex trauma all day. While we all have a past, those of us with complex trauma have a haunting past. It is like living our worst day over and over again despite what is actually happening in the present moment. And that worst day is...
by Elisabeth | Mar 14, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
Tonight there is an agitation that won’t let go. It takes away my resilience. It makes me unsure of every step I take. The little things become big things. The email from someone who is critical makes me step a little harder. The change in my schedule at the last...
