by Elisabeth | Jun 16, 2014 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters
Adults who have not recovered from complex childhood trauma usually relate to others in one of two ways. They either relate to others as a victim by underestimating their power in a situation or they seek out power over others. I wish I could say that each person...
by Elisabeth | Jun 4, 2014 | Defenders, Recovery
One of the most important things I have learned in recovery is everything is temporary. And in recovery, this is not a bad thing. Most of the painful emotions can only be tolerated with the understanding that they are temporary. Of course, it has also brought the...
by Elisabeth | May 28, 2014 | Defenders, Inner Children
My mother used to tell me that my memories were just dreams. That was one of her many methods she used to invalidate me. However, there is a fine line between dreams and reality. Our dreams have a way of telling us what is happening in our unconscious. The dream I had...
by Elisabeth | Apr 17, 2014 | Defenders, Dissociation
Sometimes I receive emails from acquaintances I knew in my early years. They usually start by expressing their deep concern for me and what I went through. Each message like this is healing because validation and concern for my situation was something I desperately...
by Elisabeth | Feb 16, 2014 | Defenders, Inner Children
Photograph by Nicholas Kevin Corey (1971-2012) February is not my favorite month … for many reasons. I don’t like the cold and snow unless I am skiing. And since I am not yet independently wealthy, I don’t ski for the entire month of February. I don’t love...
by Elisabeth | Jan 24, 2014 | Defenders
I was raised by narcissists. I am not talking about the general selfishness that plagues the human race. I am referring to sociopathic narcissism in which their only concern is reducing their own pain. There is no interest in the feelings or pain of the other …...
