by Elisabeth | May 7, 2015 | Defenders, Relationships
We all have that inner child part that is waiting to be rescued. It doesn’t require something awful to happen in our childhoods. At some point in our childhoods, we were not treated fairly and our needs were not met. This is natural. Children are born with needs that...
by Elisabeth | Apr 28, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery
*If you are sick and tired of hearing people tell you to “put the past behind you” or “get over it” or “move on with your life already”, I want to ensure you that this is not the message of this post. Today, I had a small epiphany. I was thinking about what life would...
by Elisabeth | Apr 7, 2015 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Memory Repression
As a survivor in the anti-trafficking movement, I am often treated as though I am only necessary for my story. This is not news. Most of my survivor friends can tell you about being re-exploited by those in the movement who are trying to make things right. But of...
by Elisabeth | Mar 23, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children, Parenting
I think all the time. I have always been overly cognitive. Inhabiting my body was not safe when I was a child. I invented a much nicer world in my head and it helped me through some horrible situations. But constant thinking is a recipe for disaster. It is easy to...
by Elisabeth | Mar 12, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery
How many people in your life would qualify as the “A-word”? You know those people who are nasty and manipulative and selfish, the people who are only interested in what’s in it for them. And I label them as abusers. (What word were you thinking of?) They aren’t...
by Elisabeth | Feb 20, 2015 | Defenders, Relationships, Trauma In Society
When I was a child, I was taught that sex was about power. More importantly, I was taught that sex was about a power differential. My needs, wants and concerns were of no interest to my abuser. And “no” was never an acceptable response to my abuser’s desires. I...
