by Elisabeth | Jul 1, 2015 | Defenders, Inner Children
Abuse-born Beliefs My inner child holds many belief systems. Most of them are unhealthy. Of course, it’s not her fault. She came by them honestly. Every belief system came with strong evidence of it’s veracity, especially to a small child with black and white...
by Elisabeth | Jun 24, 2015 | Defenders, Dissociation, Parenting
Coming Back to Awareness My kids have left the “mom is amazing” phase. They have made that clear. I thought it would last longer than 9 years, but it hasn’t. Don’t get me wrong, they love me and they tell me often, but they are unsure of my status as...
by Elisabeth | Jun 17, 2015 | Defenders, Parenting
Where do bullies come from? We have a bullying problem. I know I am not saying anything new. Most parents and teachers will tell you the same. And there are a million theories about what causes it. And there are a million theories about when it started. But there is...
by Elisabeth | Jun 10, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting
The Mask of Perfection When I was growing up, my parents wanted me to be perfect. They were very clear that I must exceed all standards. They wanted me to have perfect grades, perfect looks, perfect extracurricular activities. They pressured me to be the picture of...
by Elisabeth | Jun 3, 2015 | Defenders, Dissociation, Memory Repression, Recovery
The Physical Side of Trauma I often write about the holistic impact of trauma. When we go through abuse or trafficking in childhood, there is a dramatic effect on our entire being. I have discussed many aspects over the years including my beliefs, my emotional...
by Elisabeth | May 21, 2015 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters
The Battle for Control During my recovery work, I have gone through several phases of perception about control. When I was a kid, it was obvious that I was not in charge. It was very clear. I wanted to be autonomous more than anything in the world. Even as a kid, I...
