The Mother That Never Was
I don’t write about my mother often. Of all my dysfunctional childhood relationships, my experience with my mother is the most painful. I believe that small children have a disproportionate...
Death Is Not The Only Choice
Photograph by Nicholas Kevin Corey (1971-2012) February is not my favorite month … for many reasons. I don’t like the cold and snow unless I am skiing. And since I am not yet independently...
In Defense of Children
We underestimate children. I have been reminded of this fact lately with so many seeking to discredit Dylan Farrow. I am particularly bothered by the notion that at 7 years old, Dylan only said...
An Open Letter to Those Defending Woody Allen
When I read the article by Dylan Farrow, I was shocked at her bravery, honesty and resiliency. I was surprised at how she was willing to stand up against someone who is revered by our society as...
Safety First
I was raised by narcissists. I am not talking about the general selfishness that plagues the human race. I am referring to sociopathic narcissism in which their only concern is reducing their...
Losing Others, Losing Me
As I have struggled through some very dark days of trauma recovery, I have come to understand some universal laws that have helped make sense of my chaotic life. The most basic law is that the...
In Search of Family
When I was a child, I had one wish. I wanted a real family. I used to dream about it. I remember sitting in my backyard and watching the house behind mine. I am not sure why I picked that...
Just a Kid
When I became a single mother, I knew it was going to be hard. I knew there would be a lot of guessing, especially since I didn’t have real parents. I knew it would be a tremendous strain on my...
Is your feminism different from the patriarchy?
I grew up in a sexist family. They subscribed to an extreme sexism that justified rape and torture of little girls and women. It was the worst kind of sexism. My father was very clear that all...
All Kids Act That Way?
I have yet to meet an honest mother who isn’t completely insecure about motherhood. It is the hardest job on this planet. Motherhood targets our triggers. To put it a different way, it brings...
