Love is a Vicious Motivator
For anyone who has spent time with me over the past few weeks, you probably found it hard to miss my latest obsession. Recently I discovered BBC’s Sherlock. I know what you are going to say...
Maybe It Will Go Away
The impacts of my traumatic childhood cannot be measured. They are too vast and far-reaching for me to classify, categorize or otherwise explain. That said, I do try. My controller hasn’t...
Dear Controller
We go way back. Don’t get me wrong, I go way back with the other parts too, but you are the one I remember the most. You are the one I always heard, always followed, always believed. Honestly,...
You Might Not See It But It’s There
I have many clients who struggle with the possibility they can be loving, compassionate, grounded, patient and any other characteristic they need for recovery work. They tell me they can’t...
Changing Relational Patterns
4 Reasons We Struggle in Relationship & 4 Things We Can Do About It Let’s face it. Relational trauma leads to less-than-stellar relational patterns. And while some healing must happen in...
It’s Not About Perfection
In my early life, my perfection mask was the best. I covered up all of my insecurities with accomplishments and acquisitions. But I had unconscious beliefs that I knew were the “truth”. I...
5 Ways Groups Heal
I have been coaching trauma survivors for a few years and I love it. I love it so much, I have been known to jump around my office and cheer for the amazing progress a client is making. I love...
Helping the Healing
I’m going to get real about helpers today. Helpers can come in many forms. They can be therapists, life coaches, energy workers, EFT practitioners, mentors and more. All of these professionals...
We Must Feel Bad to Feel Good
The holidays are hard for survivors of trauma. I know that’s not a shocking statement. Our circumstances are usually less than stellar. Either we spend it without the majority of our family or we...
It’s Not Fair
5 Reasons Recovery is Not Fair & 3 Things You Can Do About It During the past ten years, I have been on a recovery journey full of miracles and pain which surpassed my greatest imagination. ...
