by Elisabeth | Sep 16, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery, Relationships
We are living in a scary time. It is hard for everyone. But after childhood trauma, it can paralyze us. We already have inner parts who are programmed to find the fear in everything. We learned this survival skill at a very young age. Now that the world around us...
by Elisabeth | Feb 20, 2019 | Defenders, Dissociation, Memory Repression, Recovery
I watched The Dressmaker last night. The good news: it’s free with Amazon Prime right now. The bad news: it’s full of trauma triggers. There’s rape, murder, death, bullying, domestic violence, drugs, alcoholism, dementia, mental illness, religious oppression,...
by Elisabeth | Aug 29, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Trauma In Society
As survivors, we are often torn between our deep desire to proudly be ourselves and the horrible, defeating messages of childhood. Even if we have changed our external situation since we were children, we are still inundated with futility and worthlessness from our...
by Elisabeth | Aug 22, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Trauma In Society
It isn’t about what you do, but who you are. We hear variations of this phrase all the time. And it sounds like a great concept. We can be proud of who we are as a person. We don’t have to define ourselves by what we do for a living or what we do for others. We...
by Elisabeth | Jul 12, 2017 | Parenting
Over the past few years, I have come to understand I have lived an expendable life. Before you lecture me, I want to be clear that I don’t believe my life has been for nothing. I mean I have lived a life that was expendable to others. The people in my childhood saw...