Managing the Controller

Managing the Controller

One of the most powerful and controversial spiritual laws is that our inner world mirrors our external world.  It is the source of projection.  When we look at this through an inner parts lens, it makes so much sense.  We reject in others what we reject in ourselves....
Time to Say Goodbye

Time to Say Goodbye

The Internal Family System Since I discovered my inner child early in my recovery process, I have worked hard to establish a relationship with my inner parts. I have allowed them to be mean to me as they have worked through their anger and grief. I have allowed them...
Going Places

Going Places

I have discussions often about what makes someone take the plunge in to recovery. I have heard many opinions from those on the journey. And I have come up with a few theories. 1) Those who are carrying the most pain are more likely to start the journey because the...
The Familiar Pain

The Familiar Pain

*If you are sick and tired of hearing people tell you to “put the past behind you” or “get over it” or “move on with your life already”, I want to ensure you that this is not the message of this post. Today, I had a small epiphany. I was thinking about what life would...
Let’s Journey Together

Let’s Journey Together

To My Survivor Friends, We talk often about how our recovery partners, friends and family may not always say the right thing. We know they mean well, but it is difficult for them to understand our painful situation. They may trigger us with what appears to be...