by Elisabeth | Aug 1, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Relationships
Last week, I discussed how our traumatic past can convince us trust is not the answer. When we grow up with trauma, all signposts point to trust being incredibly dangerous. And anything deemed dangerous is to be avoided when we live in survival mode. But a life...
by Elisabeth | Jul 11, 2018 | Defenders, Memory Repression, Recovery, Relationships
One of the most common notions we share as survivors of trauma is that life isn’t fair. Coming out of our childhood, it is not only understandable. It is true. Life isn’t fair. We had horrific childhoods. We didn’t get the love we deserved as children. We were...
by Elisabeth | Jun 27, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
After a childhood of relational trauma, finding love can feel like an impossible feat. As our patterns of rejection, abandonment and abuse repeat, we can reach a level of hopelessness that feels insurmountable. We can resolve ourselves to the impossibility of love. ...
by Elisabeth | Jun 20, 2018 | Defenders
In my life, I have searched for many things. I have sought out love. I have tried to find peace. But more than anything, it seems like my life has been one constant search for clarity. Who am I? What do I want? What happened to me? What have I forgotten? My...
by Elisabeth | Jun 13, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
I thought about writing Jim instead. That is your name. It has been a while since I have thought of you as more than the person who spread his seed. That certainly doesn’t make you a father. You were never a father. Sure. You spent some of your precious money on...