I Know and I Don’t

I Know and I Don’t

To my black friends as we rise up against structural racism, I have been struggling this past week.  Let’s face it.  I have been struggling this whole year.  It has been an extremely triggering year where it seems I have been swinging between a numb, manic state and a...
Healing with the Grounded Adult Self

Healing with the Grounded Adult Self

I often talk about the grounded adult self and the importance of connecting with it for healing.  But many survivors don’t believe they have a grounded adult self.  It is understandable why they would feel that way.  After childhood trauma, it can seem like we live in...
A Letter from the Defenders

A Letter from the Defenders

To the Adult Self, We are coming to you as a committee of defenders with a plea to turn this ship around while there is any hope of a reasonable life.  You are a naïve adult self.  Maybe you have done too much reading from people who are more skilled at life than...
Bye Mother

Bye Mother

Dear Mother, Another American Mother’s Day is approaching and I am still unraveling the web of contracts you spent my entire life trying to weave.  I can’t even imagine how much energy and time you spent attempting to limit my life.  Seriously, people have used that...