by Elisabeth | Jun 13, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting, Recovery, Relationships
I thought about writing Jim instead. That is your name. It has been a while since I have thought of you as more than the person who spread his seed. That certainly doesn’t make you a father. You were never a father. Sure. You spent some of your precious money on...
by Elisabeth | Apr 4, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting
There is nothing I love more than traveling. I was born with an indomitable wanderlust. I have always felt it but my traumatic childhood skewed my understanding of my love of travel. For many years, I believed it was simply an escape. I thought I loved it because...
by Elisabeth | Dec 13, 2017 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Parenting
When my children were born, I knew that I would dedicate my life to helping them be safe, healthy and happy. I wanted my children to have a very different childhood than mine. I was willing to sacrifice anything for them. At the time, I didn’t realize that meant my...
by Elisabeth | Dec 6, 2017 | Defenders, Parenting
Powerlessness is one of the most damaging emotions coming from a childhood of complex trauma. It is the foundation of depression. It keeps us paralyzed. And if we don’t recognize it for what it is, it can lead to suicidal ideation and even suicide attempts. The...
by Elisabeth | Nov 15, 2017 | Parenting, Recovery, Trauma In Society
Protecting my children has been one of my most important goals over the past 11 years. I have made it clear to my family and all other abusers that my children are not available to them. I have eliminated all contact with abusers in our lives. This required me to...
by Elisabeth | Oct 25, 2017 | Parenting
Through my work with other trauma survivors, I have been surprised to learn how many similarities our stories share. The external circumstances are often different. But the beliefs we gain, the emotions we carry and the abusive strategies used against us are...
