My Birth Story
There is one thing I know about mothers. When we get talking about our birth stories, we can talk all day. Part of that is the intensely pivotal aspect of the experience. It is responsible for...
The Loneliness in Freedom
I have been working through some contracts with my family of origin lately. I have some very scared inner parts who believe that breaking these contracts will lead to an extremely painful life...
Three Myths about Repressed Memories
When it comes to trauma recovery, there is nothing more controversial than repressed memories. There has been endless pushback about their validity. People who have a vested interest in keeping...
Not My Curse
I watched The Dressmaker last night. The good news: it’s free with Amazon Prime right now. The bad news: it’s full of trauma triggers. There’s rape, murder, death, bullying, domestic violence,...
Reframing the Backslide
As a life coach for trauma survivors, my conversations tend to follow certain themes. It is never boring though. The experiences are vastly different within those themes. And I am always...
One Day I’ll Fly Away
We live in a world of control. Everyone is trying to control their surroundings, their feelings, other people. This desperate need to control is coming from fear. There is so much fear built...
Anxiety and Depression: Our Emotional Defenses
If you have been on this recovery journey for a while, you probably have a sense of how you defend against your emotions. You may have been able to identify some of your strategies. You may...
Your Emotions are Flashbacks
It is incredibly difficult to navigate our emotions in a world that sees emotions as invalid and unnecessary. If we cried as children, we were often threatened to stop. If we expressed...
The Chains of Perfectionism
If there’s one thing we have learned about complex trauma, it has a huge impact over the course of our lives. The effects of our trauma permeate every aspect of life and inform every pattern we...
Managing the Controller
One of the most powerful and controversial spiritual laws is that our inner world mirrors our external world. It is the source of projection. When we look at this through an inner parts lens,...
