Are you struggling to parent the way you hoped?

Even though you would never abuse your children, do you find yourself acting as your parents did?

Do you lose control sometimes and have no idea why?

You work hard and you’re determined to parent your children in a way that is balanced and loving. You want to bring them up in a way that allows them the freedom to be themselves, to reach their potential and to live healthy happy lives.

But at times you find yourself struggling to hold it together.

Struggling to manage your emotions

Struggling to manage your temper

And struggling to allow your kids to get close to you …

Perhaps you: 

  • are afraid you will act in a way that reminds you of your parents
  • ‘shut down’ each time your emotions threaten to overwhelm you
  • struggle to set healthy boundaries because you just can’t seem to say no
  • are overly protective in your attempts to keep your children safe
  • have a tendency to doubt your children
  • struggle to trust teachers and care givers
  • find yourself repeating messages from your past to your children
  • feel guilty that you’re not the ‘perfect’ parent
  • feel trapped by the daily demands of parenting

These are just some of the ways that the effects of our own trauma can show up in our parenting. And let’s face it. We really don’t know what a parent is supposed to look like. We certainly can’t use our own parents as an example.

Parenting is difficult for everyone. Everyone!

But parents who are have experienced childhood trauma have an especially difficult time.

We have no model to follow and we are fantastically good at beating ourselves up for not being perfect enough.

We are also triggered by our kids every day even if we have no awareness of it.

The messages that are deeply engrained in our brains often don’t match the parent we want to be. This results in an internal battle that can leave us reeling and paralysed. We’re afraid to set boundaries, unable to connect emotionally and terrified of making a mistake and scarring our kids for life. We certainly know what that feels like and we will do anything to ensure our children are not subjected to what we went through.

But finding balance is difficult.

Anxiety stalks us day and night.

We are hyper aware of everything.

It’s exhausting …

Hi, I’m Elisabeth Corey and I’m a survivor of family-controlled childhood sex abuse and trafficking. I’m also a parent of twins, a boy and a girl now aged 11.

When I became a parent, I had no idea what I was getting into. 

I had no idea why I was responding to my children with such intense emotion and anxiety.

I had no idea my past was invading my present moment.

And I had no idea my past was impacting my habits as a parent.

As I worked to recover from my past trauma, I uncovered a range of messages that were programmed deep within my unconscious mind. Messages that made it extremely difficult (next to impossible), for me to be the parent I wanted to be.

I know you want your kids to be happy and healthy.

I know you want your children to live trauma free lives.

I know you want your children to realise their potential.

And I want to help you become the parent that will allow this to happen. In my work with trauma survivors, I have learned that many of the habits I discovered in myself are also present in my clients.

As a result, I’ve developed my Parenting with Complex Trauma program which is designed to help you uncover the ways the powerful messages from your past are impacting your parenting today.

When we understand the reasons we react to our children in the way we do, we can begin to change the way we parent. With awareness we can begin to make different choices, to reduce anxiety and to find the balanced parenting that will allow our kids to flourish.

I know you want that.

And I want that for you too …

I highly recommend Elisabeth’s programme. It was great to work with another parent who is aware of the demands placed on us in our parenting role and how triggering this can be. I was able to express how trapped I feel at times with someone who knows how suffocating this feels. We were able to look at my choices when I feel like this which has helped me to move away from feeling stuck. It was so therapeutic to be able to talk openly about this and to not feel judged. Elisabeth was very available and accessible throughout the work which was invaluable in terms of checking things out and offering necessary reassurance when the doubt starts to creep in, as it does! Thank you, Elisabeth, for being part of my recovery and I am sure we will work together again in the near future

Emily

How this program works:

My parenting workshop will be delivered weekly to your inbox over a seven week period.

Each week we will explore a different parenting habit, via video, audio blogs and a question worksheet, that will guide you to uncover the deeply held messages from your past trauma that may be impacting your parenting today. I will also highlight some actions steps to help you make changes to how you parent your children.

The questions will take between 1-2 hours per week and you can answer them over the week as you have the time. It is also useful to read the questions and reflect on them before answering as this gives you time to watch how these habits may be showing up for you.

This workshop will be most effective for you if you are able to write your answers and journal your reactions to the questions. Writing allows us to access our unconscious mind where all the old messages are stored. When we can see these messages clearly, we are able to reinterpret them using our adult logic instead of a child’s mind that tried to make sense of something it couldn’t understand.

Join my Parenting with Complex Trauma Program today

Access to my 7 week email program including video, audio, worksheets and action steps

VIP Access to my 7 week email program including video, audio, worksheets and action steps plus 3 private one-to-one consultations. There is so much benefit in discussing your progress and findings with someone who understands and can guide you. Take your parenting to the next level and change your family’s future.

The pain you’ve experienced in your life as a result of your childhood is the biggest motivator to become a better parent. And I know when your child/children were born, you promised yourself you would never subject your children to the pain you experienced.

But life for a complex trauma survivor is not easy.

We find ourselves behaving in ways we promised ourselves we wouldn’t

We find ourselves exploding for ‘no reason’

We see the sadness on our children’s faces when we’re angry

We feel guilt for the times we know we didn’t get it right

We love our children passionately and yet we struggle to show it

And we can feel trapped in a situation that feels beyond our control

It’s terrifying …

Parenting is the most difficult job in the world. That’s a given.

There are however, ways to make it easier on yourself, ways to understand how your past is dictating your present and ways to change the parental patterns that are causing you and your kids so much pain.

Using the 7 habits I clearly identified in myself and my clients as the basis of this program is the simplest way for me to demonstrate, and for you to see, how the patterns created by your childhood trauma are showing up today. And with that knowledge, you can begin to make different choices from an informed and aware perspective.

It’s truly life transforming.

Join my Parenting with Complex Trauma Program today

Access to my 7 week email program including video, audio, worksheets and action steps

VIP Access to my 7 week email program including video, audio, worksheets and action steps plus 3 private one-to-one consultations. There is so much benefit in discussing your progress and findings with someone who understands and can guide you. Take your parenting to the next level and change your family’s future.