by Elisabeth | Feb 17, 2021 | Defenders, Parenting, Recovery
I don’t watch much television. But I have a habit of watching “This Is Us”. I watch it every Tuesday night when there’s a new episode. My controller tries to shut down any potential emotion, but for some reason, I always seem to manage to move my schedule around...
by Elisabeth | Oct 24, 2018 | Defenders, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
My controller has been confusing me lately. It isn’t unusual to be confused by the controller. They use that as a defense mechanism. They will spin you around and around to keep you from knowing the truth. But this was a bit different. My controller kept telling...
by Elisabeth | Jun 27, 2018 | Defenders, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
After a childhood of relational trauma, finding love can feel like an impossible feat. As our patterns of rejection, abandonment and abuse repeat, we can reach a level of hopelessness that feels insurmountable. We can resolve ourselves to the impossibility of love. ...
by Elisabeth | May 2, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
When we grow up with complex trauma, we learn survival skills. These survival skills are incredibly useful when we are children. They may not be as helpful as we think they are, but they definitely help. They help avoid painful abusive experiences. But when we...
