You Will Never Be Who You Were

You Will Never Be Who You Were

This might sound like an ominous title for a blog.  But I promise it has a happier ending than it seems.  One of the most common statements from my clients is that they want to be who they were in their twenties.  They had so much energy.  They got so much done.  They...
I Know and I Don’t

I Know and I Don’t

To my black friends as we rise up against structural racism, I have been struggling this past week.  Let’s face it.  I have been struggling this whole year.  It has been an extremely triggering year where it seems I have been swinging between a numb, manic state and a...
I Am Not Your Convenience

I Am Not Your Convenience

Dear Mother, You turned me into a lot of things when I was a child.  You projected all your horrible trauma on to me and made me your enemy.  In reality, I was simply a child who wanted to be loved.  I was your child and I wanted your protection.  I wanted to feel...
How Control Works

How Control Works

Apparently, I sent an unusual email to a client the other day.  I was referring to a new understanding about an inner part and how they were impacted by my dad.  The client wrote back and said, “There’s a word I don’t ever hear you say: ‘dad’.”  I was a little...