The Isolator: Navigating Relationships after Trauma

The Isolator: Navigating Relationships after Trauma

I’ve been working with some intense battles in my system lately.  I have a tendency to focus on my defenders when I am feeling blocked and I often discuss them in my writing.  To be fair, the defender fears of recovery and change are not the only inner obstacles we...
One Day …

One Day …

The Myths of the Controller I have a very strong controller.  They love to plan out my life for me.  They love to tell me what I need to do to achieve a perfect life.  They have logical ideas that sound completely accurate.  I can’t argue with logic.  If it makes...
The Dissonance of Relationship

The Dissonance of Relationship

There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships.  Why?  Complex trauma is relational.  We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives.  And while the dissociation we use to...