by Elisabeth | Feb 26, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Inner Children, Recovery, Relationships
Relationships after trauma can feel like a mine field. There is no telling where the next explosion will come from. And our emotional responses to relationship patterns can be so intense, it feels impossible to unravel. But we keep going back to relationships. ...
by Elisabeth | Jan 15, 2020 | Defenders
I’ve been working with some intense battles in my system lately. I have a tendency to focus on my defenders when I am feeling blocked and I often discuss them in my writing. To be fair, the defender fears of recovery and change are not the only inner obstacles we...
by Elisabeth | Oct 3, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
The Myths of the Controller I have a very strong controller. They love to plan out my life for me. They love to tell me what I need to do to achieve a perfect life. They have logical ideas that sound completely accurate. I can’t argue with logic. If it makes...
by Elisabeth | Sep 27, 2017 | Defenders, Relationships
There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships. Why? Complex trauma is relational. We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives. And while the dissociation we use to...
by Elisabeth | May 18, 2016 | Defenders, Recovery, Relationships
What can I do about it? My work with clients often comes in themes. Most of the time, I find that my clients’ inner work is a reflection of my own journey and we grow together. But lately, a new theme is emerging. And it is not something I am currently facing in my...
