How Control Works

How Control Works

Apparently, I sent an unusual email to a client the other day.  I was referring to a new understanding about an inner part and how they were impacted by my dad.  The client wrote back and said, “There’s a word I don’t ever hear you say: ‘dad’.”  I was a little...
As We Start Our Family Tree

As We Start Our Family Tree

To my children as we start our family tree, I cannot begin to describe the impact you have on my life. You are the blessings sent from the divine to wake me up. You are the little life tornadoes who never let me choose the easy way out of the pain. You are the epitome...
The Failing of Single Parents

The Failing of Single Parents

When Jared Leto won an Oscar last night, I don’t think anyone was shocked.  However, his undeniably beautiful dedication to his single mother may have been surprising to some.  Why?  In our society, we have a habit of focusing on the damage that single-parented...
An Open Letter to Those Defending Woody Allen

An Open Letter to Those Defending Woody Allen

When I read the article by Dylan Farrow, I was shocked at her bravery, honesty and resiliency.  I was surprised at how she was willing to stand up against someone who is revered by our society as a talented artist.  However, I was more shocked by those who are willing...
Losing Others, Losing Me

Losing Others, Losing Me

As I have struggled through some very dark days of trauma recovery, I have come to understand some universal laws that have helped make sense of my chaotic life.  The most basic law is that the inner child will recreate the challenges of the childhood until the...